20 ways to spice up your sex life
Are your date nights feeling blah? Do you need to spice it up before it dies of boredom? Here are 20 tips from some of our favorite people!
1. Why do you have to? If the combination of the two people isn't spicy enough, stay home and read a good book.
– Catherine Hickland, author of The 30 Day Heartbreak Cure
2. Let your date pick from a grab bag of coupons for different sex acts from a sensuous massage to intercourse in the room of his choice.
-- Lily from PA
3. Flirt, flirt, flirt with your partner: No matter how long you've been together, flirt with each other when you go out. If you used to flirt with each other and now don't, start doing it again. If you never did, try stepping out of your "norm" and flirt a little with him or her.
-- Susie and Otto Collins, relationship coaches and co-authors of Red Hot Love Relationships and How to Heal Your Broken Heart
4.Let your husband/date choose a sexy outfit for you to wear. Just the act of dressing for him -- outfit and lingerie -- will turn him on.
-- Beverly Solomon, creative director of musee-solomon
5. Go on a road trip! Just drive, no destination in mind, and see where the road takes you.
-- Amy from IN
6. Do a slow strip tease, one item of clothing after each romantic dance. You probably won't get past 3 songs.
-- Beverly Solomon, creative director of musee-solomon
7. Wear sexy underwear that you know your mate will love – it will be an extra special gift as he unwraps his "present".
--Scarlette from NJ
8. Play photographer and model. Whether you keep the photos or not, it is a great turn on. And a great way to find out what about your looks turns him on.
-- Beverly Solomon, creative director of musee-solomon
9. Make some chocolate fondue for dessert – and then brush the leftovers on each other!
-- Ellyn from NY
10. Start with you nude in your heels and have him to put your garter belt and hose on you -- again you might get past one leg. Note -- if HE puts on your garter belt and hose --run for your life.
-- Beverly Solomon, creative director of musee-solomon
11. Try something you never have before – whether it be a public place, bondage, or blind folds, it will bring a whole new dimension to your lovemaking.
-- Melissa from FL
12. Invent your own brand of romance and it doesn't have to look like anyone else's. Romance to you might be yelling and screaming together at a basketball game. It might be snuggled up at your favorite restaurant or it might be taking a walk in the woods and holding hands.
-- Susie and Otto Collins, relationship coaches and co-authors of Red Hot Love Relationships and How to Heal Your Broken Heart
13. Send flirty texts in the hours before your date – by dinner, the anticipation will be driving you crazy.
-- Grace from NY
14. Wear new undies. Even if you don't plan for the night to go in that direction, it will make you feel more sexy and confident.
-- Marti from CT
15. Share the fantasy night. Whisper your fantasy in his ear in public and let him stew in the thought until you get home. Have the stage set.
-- Beverly Solomon, creative director of musee-solomon
16. Watch a dirty movie. Either it will turn you on, or give you a great shared laugh.
-- Allison from NJ
17. Try an evening of finger foods... feeding each other gooey, messy, bites can be incredibly erotic!
-- Laura from NY
18. Take a trip down memory lane. For date night, do something together that you used to love to do together. Maybe it's the restaurant where you met, bowling or renting the movie you saw together on your first date.
-- Susie and Otto Collins, relationship coaches and co-authors of Red Hot Love Relationships and How to Heal Your Broken Heart
19. Fool around – but don't have sex. Remember high school, when you'd make out for hours and never even take off your clothes? NOT having sex can be a huge turn on.
-- Erica from VA
20. Try role playing. Meet at a bar and pretend to be strangers... the excitement will be flowing in no time.
-- Jill from OH