Oral Sex 101: A Basic Primer

Oral Sex 101: A Basic Primer
by Jennifer Good

One of the most passionate and loving things you can do for your partner is give them oral gratification. The act of using your partner's most vulnerable areas to unleash waves of pleasure from your tongue can be a quite unforgettable experience, and can take your sexual relationship to new heights.

The following guide is made as a basic primer to giving great head, however, if you are more experienced give it a quick read anyway. There quite a few tips and tidbits anyone can use at any level.

The Golden Rules

There are two golden rules when it comes to giving your partner oral pleasure. Whenever you feel the desire to please your partner this way, always keep these rules in mind. They are quite simple, yet if avoided will result in a less than pleasurable experience for both parties involved.

The first and most important rule to remember is to avoid using your teeth. On a female, you could probably get away with a little light nibble depending on how aroused they are, however, many women are just as sensitive to teeth as males are. To be on the safe side, the rule of thumb here still remains...no teeth.

The second and almost equally important rule is your attitude. This may sound cliche, but the more excited you are about doing it, the more pleasure your partner is going to receive, even if your techniques are not all that polished. The sight of you being completely aroused while trying to arouse them gives your partner a sense of freedom to truly enjoy every little nuance of the experience.

The Extra Touches

When going down, there are a few things you can do to avoid monotony and make it more enjoyable for both you and your partner. These aren't specific techniques, but rather good habits to learn when it comes to oral sex.

Make Eye Contact

This keeps the exchange intimate and personal and ladies, it drives your man crazy!! Really, try it and you'll see what I mean. Nothing else in your sexual exchanges will create the kind of sexy and personal atmosphere that you'll get from eye contact.

Keep Them Lubed

You'd think with all that tongue action the area would be perfectly lubed. However, that isn't always the case. When it comes to going down on your man, you'll need to use your mouth and your hands to help spread things around to keep everything nice and slick. Men, when you're pleasing your woman, make sure she's wet before probing around too harshly with your fingers. While not taking the time to make sure they are lubed probably isn't going to make them tell you to get off of them, they'll certainly appreciate it if you take the time to make sure they're ready. Let's face it, if you're going to do it, take the few extra minutes to make sure you're doing it the best that you can.

Go Deep

When you're giving oral sex to your man, keep the repetitious feeling at bay by changing things up a bit. Every so often, give him a few rounds of deep throating action. If you have a gag reflex, don't worry, it's usually caused by self-pressure. Just relax and do what you can for as long as you can. Work up to getting better. Trust me - he won't mind you practicing.


It is often said that good sex is created through good communication. I absolutely agree. Each person is completely unique and has different likes and dislikes. The only way to really know how to give your partner the ultimate experience is to talk to them about it.

Stay Clean

If you ask just about any person what's their number one turn-off about giving oral sex, more often than not you'll hear something relating to their partner's lack of cleanliness. Be respectful to your partner and practice good hygiene. Better yet, if you know you're going to be in for some sexual exploits, take a shower or a bath beforehand.

Keep It Neat

Ladies, this is mainly for you. While you don't need to shave completely, a little trimming goes a long way to encourage his desire. If you're not sure how he likes, turn the situation into something sensual and ask him to trim it for you.

Possible Taboos

I've already talked about the importance of communication. You'll need it here to find out what things are off-limits to your partner. Below are a few questions you should ask your partner about before actually doing:

* How do you feel about kissing after oral?
* What are your thoughts about having oral after sex?
* How far can my hands stray? Is the back side completely off-limits?
Is it something you'd be willing to try?
* What are your thoughts about using sex toys to enhance the experience?
* Is there anything you absolutely can't stand having done to you?

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